KIDS AND TEENS
Child-therapy and parenting
STUDIO INTERNAZIONALE PSICOLOGIA è anche un posto per genitori e figli: offriamo terapia dell'età evolutiva ai ragazzi e supporto ai genitori in ogni fase della crescita.
Children may manifest some concerning behaviors from an early age: e.g. extreme distress for small separations and detachments from parents; not being able to tolerate frustrations and prohibitions; refusal to eat some foods; excessive difficulty in getting into bed or sleeping alone; difficult control of the sphincters or using the potty and so on...
Our psychologists can help parents to understand whether these behaviors represent a child's way of communicating an emotional difficulty and they can provide educational strategies for coping with those.
As children grow up they can manifest their anxiety with increasingly complex behaviors, in the form of tantrums or somatic disorders; or, on the contrary, by showing themselves to be too autonomous for their age, such as children who are unable to ask for help, but they pee in bed when they are left alone. At this age, relationships with other kids become more and more important and difficulties with peers begin to occupy a greater part of their thoughts. In addition, at primary school children are requested to cope with increasingly clear expectations about their school performance. All this may generate some anxiety, which can lead to isolation on video games and PDAs, or, on the contrary, to a difficulty in spending time alone, with eating disorders, sleep disorders, attention and / or school difficulties unrelated to specific learning disabiilty.
In all these cases, children often need a specialist to whom they can confess all their fears, so that they will learn how to tell mum and dad. Our team is highly trained to investigate on the emotional state of the child, adapting our clinical setting to the age and some activities presented in the form of games.
The goal will always be to allow children to find in their parents a point of reference to turn to in case of difficulty, learning to communicate their state of mind and finding the certainty of an environment that can protect them.
Puberty and Adolescence
Puberty and adolescence represent the most difficult and controversial stage of development, in which one learns to define oneself as individuals increasingly independent from the family of origin. The system of family values and rules needs to bebe questioned, arising an internal conflict, since boys and girls of this age still feel in need of family reassurance.
Almost all adolescents experience feelings of inadequacy towards their peers, self-esteem issues and difficulties in accepting their changing body. They feel under constant judgment: from parents, friends, the enlarged social media group and, above all, and for the first time, the judgment of the opposite sex.
In this important moment of revolution, children and parents both proceed by trial and error, towards a difficult redefinition of inter-personal boundaries.
Transgression is part of the process, but it must not lead to anti-social behavior, such robbing or excessive use of drugs and alcohol. Similarly, teenagers feel entitled to manage their own diet, but they cannot be left free to the point of endangering their own health; in these circumstances, a therapist, being out of the conflict with parents, is the best person to help them find a healthier way to pursue their goals.
Mood swings and a difficult emotional regulation are common to all teens, but when sadness, listlessness or shyness are turning into a depressive episode, social isolation, obsessive perfectionism, or an eating disorder, a psychologist must be involved.
Not all teenagers agree to be helped by a therapist chosen by their parents; in these cases we can help the parents directly, precisely on how to reduce conflict and the feeling of helplessness, providing you with the most appropriate educational strategies.